“Nobody likes to be changed. Not even a baby.”
This is a phrase my mother taught me early in life. Don’t try to change others. (Inspiring others and leading by example is not the same thing.) But what about when we want to change ourselves? What about when the change we want to create is within us not outside of us?
As a “Rebel Tendency” (gretchenrubin.com), I have a tendency to resist both inner and outer expectations of myself. Meaning, I don’t like to be told what to do, not even by myself. Naturally, this makes steering internal change a little more challenging than I’d like. Rebels wake up in the morning and think, “What do I want to do today?” This is opposed to other tendencies that wake up and think, “What do I have to do today?” And while the former is mostly true for me, I’ve also learned to override my own objections in order to be successful. And regardless of our tendency, when desire is strong enough, we will do whatever we think it takes to reach that desire. It starts with being willing to be willing.